Parenting Solutions

Bless your kid with healthy food

These days obesity in kids is becoming an alarming issue. The eating habits of the kids are to be blamed for. 

More than the kids I feel it’s parents fault.

If you feel you are rewarding your kid with chaats and outside food, you are actually telling the kid that getting such food is something exciting, more appealing and we should always seek for such food.

Reward should be something which can benefit your kid in their long life. Such reward will also carry blessings for your kids.

Don’t expect your kid to follow a different diet than you. This is even supported by the top pediatricians. Kids will eat what you enjoy eating. Even if you hide you will see your kid following you. If not today then tomorrow. Looking at the kids, doctors can tell what their parent’s eating habits are. Kids will get attracted to fruits and vegetables if they see you eating and enjoying them.

Simple though very helpful tips on - http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk/r/children/diet_for_kids.htm

Get Involved on ground

Nowadays kids don’t play if you don’t force them to.  Some kids are not good at any games. not even average. Just shouting and forcing them for these is not going to help. So try some tricks –

Start playing yourself or with other family members and your kid would want to join you.

if you throw the ball in a simple way and ask the kid to bat, your kid will hit well and you can over react and struggle to catch hold of the ball, your kid would love to see that and enjoy the game and will expect you to appreciate them. You then have to encourage and continue the game. After some time you can expect some interest and expertise developed in your kid for the game. Maybe at your kid’s age they should be playing such games with little more seriousness and discipline but you’ll always have to pick your kid up from zero.

Confidence and Smartness

How important smartness is, we all know. and you don’t have any idea on how important it will be when your kids grow up.

A brain is a society of very small, simple modules that cannot be said to be thinking, and are not smart in themselves. But when you have a network of them together, out of that arises a kind of smartness.

The message that I get from it is – let’s start building these small and simple modules for the kid by getting involved with them in all the areas.

We never want to teach anything bad to the kids but sometimes we also forget to teach something good.  Smartness is ultimately what is there in their mind. This is completely up to us. We need to spend more and more time with them, teaching them good things, playing with them. If you know some weakness of your kid which you feel is beyond your scope, then there are some examples you can refer to – Hritik Roshan does 1 hour fast speech exercise daily even today to improve his stammering problem.

Possibility thinking – it is playing simple puzzle games with your kids and asking them to try a new option every time to solve the puzzles. These things do the best development for kids than any other game does. We need to add our creativity to make these games more and more interesting every time.

This helps to make them smart, imaginative and ultimately this is going to help them utilize their brains in studies.  If your kid is not even average in terms of smartness, do not expect them to be good in studies.

I think we should never show any family problem to the kids. The impact of this is on your kids is on long term confidence and smartness.

You shouldn’t play anything on TV apart from cartoon channels if your kid is around. I think this makes a big difference and will let your kid feel kiddish and will take them to their world of fun and creativity rather than family serials talking about so many family issues and tensions. We sometimes make mistake thinking that our kid is not listening to the hindi serials while they are doing something else and not watching the TV.

Give comfort to your kid

Nowadays kids have synthetic kind of dresses. I understand those are very expensive and look good if they wear it and go out. The design of those dresses is in a way that your obese kid doesn’t look very fat in those. But whenever your kids wear those, they are not very active and after an hour or two they feel irritated and want to go back to home. I understand kids may carry themselves very well in those dresses (which makes us feel that they are very comfortable in those), but ultimately they are not in a situation to feel free, be more active and join other kids to play.

Kids initially do not have any dressing likes. They develop based on what we buy for them and show them as the best dresses in town.

If kids wear most comfortable dress (these dresses are sometimes cheap and not flashy, and the price doesn’t satisfy us), kids do look little fat but they feel very relaxed. They will play with other kids, enjoy and will be seen more active.

I think it is better to keep our pride and prestige aside and let your kid wear most comfortable dresses which can make them feel like playing instead of watching other kids play.

This is a small thing but will add a lot in long term. To believe this you’ll first have to understand that good personalities of the whole world are pregnant with loads of ideas, thoughts and good health and not just show off.

**Instead of spending time searching the right size and good brand of cloths for you kid, you can spend same time talking to them and playing with them.

Summary –

•  Give them healthy food.
•  Spend as much time as possible
•  Play games – indoor and outdoor
•  Give good knowledge and make sure you answer your kid’s stupid questions, no matter how many   times they ask the same thing.
•  Dress them in comfortable clothing.
•  Restrict TV channels and time
•  Reward with non material things. Otherwise it is as good as bribe.
•  Develop reading habit in your kid from a very young age by giving them to read what is appropriate for their age.
•  Don’t criticize your kid in front of them. Always appreciate and compliment them.
•  Don’t fight and discuss family problems in front of your kids.
•  If a parent says something to the kid, another shouldn’t contradict in front of the kid. You can always discuss it later otherwise kid will favor what is beneficial to him.

Happy Parenting!!!